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January 30, 2008

Yikes

Being both super busy and broke is an odd sensation. I'm reminded of the old Louis Jordan swing song that used to be on my answering machine when I was in my twenties: "If you're so smart...how come you ain't rich."

I'm doing everything I can to get the word out on the book. I just started a Facebook group, Bedtime Stories, and I wrote a humor piece that I'm hoping Vanity Fair will run and God knows what else. At the same time the semester is just starting up again and my film grad students pay too much money (about $40K a year!) to have one of their profs be absentee. And then there's taking care of the kids.

Oh, yeah. Them.

I'm getting lazier and lazier. I used to get up at seven, make breakfast and take them to school but if I don't get eight hours sleep I'm crankier than Chet when he hasn't eaten or slept. I was up till midnight answering emails and writing after having taught and taken care of the kids after school so at seven I was still wupt. I woke them up then went back to bed for a half hour and at 7:30 when I got up I had Chet get his own breakfast. Actually the pediatrician had just asked if he could already and I kind of assumed that he would slosh milk all over the floor. Instead, he did pretty well (except he poured a lake of milk into his bowl). Ava, meanwhile, never goes anywhere, does anything, without a book in her hand.

January 21, 2008

Barack and Hillary’s Dream

I was ten months old but living only a few blocks away from the Lincoln Memorial the day a quarter of a million civil rights protesters most famously marched on Washington. My dad had walked over to the Mall early so by the afternoon, feeling guilty about leaving my mom alone with a howling baby, he headed home to keep her company and so missed hearing what is generally considered to be the greatest speech of this century.

Nevertheless, as the first generation of black kids to grow up post segregation, when Dr. King spoke of, “little black boys and little black girls,” joining hands with “little white boys and little white girls,” I grew up assuming that he was talking about me. Growing up in the 70s and weaned on p.c., multi-cultural propaganda like Zoom and The Electric Company, I saw the whole world as one big rainbow coalition and figured King’s dream would be realized before I graduated high school.

Instead, the 1980s brought Ronald Reagan railing against “welfare queens.” I put King’s dream on hold and although I had been raised in mainly white neighborhoods all my life, I opted to stay in the black-theme house, Ujamaa, at Stanford.

I’m a year younger than Senator Obama and I’m sure, like the Senator, have memorized most all of Reverend King’s speech, but oddly, I don’t think I ever seriously contemplated the possibility of being elected President of the United States.

Don’t get me wrong, I’ve had other very grand dreams and already realized many of them (I’ve still got time for my Pulitzer, my Nobel and a date with Angelina Jolie).

Where we differ is that after the 80s I don’t think I ever had enough faith in the colorblind goodwill of mainstream America to elect me President.

My childhood dream of writing the Great American Novel was something I could strive for on my own. It wasn’t predicated on the cooperation of the non-black masses.

So I am awed by Obama’s chutzpah and thrilled by the legions of non-blacks seemingly eager to hand him the keys to the kingdom.

I must also add what seems to be talked about much less often in the mainstream media: Hillary Clinton’s possible election as Commander-in-Chief would be every bit as remarkable. Either event would be as momentous in the history of this nation as landing a man on the moon.

Not only am I a black man but more importantly I am the father of a little boy AND a little girl. The fact that both of these campaigns threaten to fulfill King’s dream and open up vistas for both of the most important people in my life makes me love this country even more and believe even more -- or perhaps again -- in the possibility of its promise.

Look, perhaps neither one of them will get to the mountaintop but I am grateful to both Senators for rediscovering a trail that I had feared lost.

So whatever happens in 2008, get ready for 2048. My kids are so smart and so charming and so capable that you’d be nuts not to vote for them . My six-year-old son already says “Hello!” and charms everybody he passes. It’s like he’s already running for office.


January 17, 2008

I Need Your Help

Bedtime Stories hits the stores February 5th. Unfortunately I won't be doing a tour but I do hope to be doing a lot of radio and some TV interviews. Please help me beat the drum and pester your local bookstores to order a mountain of them. I've worked on this book for three years. It almost doesn't seem real that it is finally seeing the light of day.

January 15, 2008

Back Home

I kept saying, "Back home," in LA and my friends there were convinced that I was talking about my house there (that I am selling, severing my ties to that city for good). They can't seem to realize that I have moved back home to New York, the place I called home throughout my 17 years in LA.

It's thirty degrees here but it feels balmy to me. The 50 degrees in LA with just a sweater is a lot colder than 30 in Manhattan with a down coat.

I've got one more week of vacation before school starts up again and I'm spending it dreaming about my book coming out, finally. Rodale has finished copies but I haven't seen one yet. We've gone back and forth on the cover. I can't wait to see how it finally looks. i've never worked so hard nor so long on a book. Now I really want the world to hear about it.

My kids were besides themselves to see me again. I missed them desperately while I was in LA. Their mom left the next day and she left them each Valentine chocolate hearts on their beds. I was hoping that she would stay longer, a friend had even offered her a free apartment, but the kids loves the chocolate. Moments later Ava run up to me with a paper napkin. I just smiled, didn't get it. Then I noticed that the square was tilted like a diamond and the top corner had been folded in and a notch at the top. She'd made a heart out of the napkin. My own heart swelled. I'll keep it forever. It was such a simple gesture but so pure.

January 07, 2008

Hectic

My stay out here in Los Angeles continues to be hectic and today I am officially a bad dad. My daughter has been cramming for the big English Language Assessment Tests for New York State for weeks now. She's nine. The tests are used by New York State to determine if she can get into the selective public middle schools. On last year's practice test I am proud to say she got 100%. She's an amazing little girl.

I make a point of calling the kids (or they me these days) once a day when I'm away but today I didn't remember until I was in the middle of yoga. I hadn't been in months and my body really craved it. When I got it it was too late on the East Coast, the kids were in bed. The test is tomorrow. I've set my alarm for four a.m. so I can wake up and wish her good luck before school starts.

LA is rainy and cold. I'm shivering all the time and everyone here is sick. You don't see this wintery LA on Baywatch. Since it is usually not cold the houses aren't really insulated.

Still, I went to yoga for the first time in months and my body just rejoiced. For as movie minded and superficial as this town is, there still can be found some wonder here.

January 05, 2008

Back in LA 2008

I'm here again in my old house, again living in it like a ghost, ready to disappear when the realtor comes by with new prospects. This winter break I really needed from the joys of day-to-day parenting. The kids's mom flew up with them from Georgia to take them to school for a week. I was hoping for some sunshine here and did get a few hours of sun on me but mostly it's been freezing and rainy. I flew to Vegas for two days and it was even colder there. Still, this break is good for me, letting me recharge myself and write some articles that I'd love to place to come out in time for the book. I'm in limbo now, happily so, before school and the book start up at the end of the month.